Casual dating

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Registered: 04-22-2003
Casual dating
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Wed, 09-07-2005 - 8:14pm
What's your opinion on casual dating? If one person isn't ready to be exclusive is it ok to still casually date that person? I guess in the hopes that it will go somewhere?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: riese2002
Wed, 09-07-2005 - 9:08pm

To me, it would depend on a couple things: what type of relationship YOU want, and whether the person wants that same type of relationship, but feels that the two of you need to spend more time getting to know each other before you become exclusive.

If the other person just wanted to date casually for an indefinite period, and I wanted a serious LTR, then no, I wouldn't continue hoping they'd change their mind.

Sheri

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Registered: 10-17-2002
In reply to: riese2002
Wed, 09-07-2005 - 9:14pm
Don't hold out hope that it will go anywhere. Occasionally, casual relationships do (VERY occasionally) turn into more but much more likely is that one person is getting exactly what they want in a relationship with no strings, no commitment and an easy out while the other one is always hoping for more. The one that wants more usually winds up getting hurt. I think the only way casual relationships can work is if both people have the same expectations that it's only a casual relationship and that it will not go past that. Otherwise, someone will put more into it and get hurt in the end when it doesn't turn out like they thought it would.

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