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Caught Between Friends
| Tue, 06-22-2004 - 11:40pm |
About four weeks ago I lost my virginity to a guy I met in February. His name? Sean.
Since the day Sean and I met, there's been a mutual attraction between us. However, about a week after having sex with Sean, I realized, unlike me, he is not ready to be in a committed relationship. And so, even though I am still physically attracted and emotionally attached to Sean, I decided I should date other guys in the meantime.
The guy I am dating now? Sean's friend and roommate, Ethan.
Is this a big no-no? Am I asking for trouble by dating Sean's friend and roommate when I am still attracted/attached to Sean?

Even though I sincerely like Ethan, I wonder if it's not a good idea to date him while I'm still very much attracted and attached to Sean...?
Also, I am worried Ethan thinks I am just using him to get to Sean. He asked me- flat out- if he was just the messenger. I told him he wasn't, but I'm not sure if he believes me.
What are my options? Should I cease to date Ethan until I am no longer emotionally attached to Sean? Or will I always be emotionally attached to Sean because he was my first and is this something I will just have to deal with for the rest of my life?