Caught between Two
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Caught between Two
| Fri, 03-19-2004 - 5:50am |
I am only 19, and have been with the same guy since I was 15. He wants to get married in just a few years which scares me because I am way to young to be married. He has been very very good to me and I am grateful for that. He has never cheated on me, although I have had many thoughts about cheating on him, but have not done that. I want to break up with him, but I know he will hate me and be very hurt, and I don't know what to say to him, or if I should just stay with him? Right now there is this guy that comes into the place where I work, to workout. I have a serious crush on him and we have talked a little but not too much. I want to try and pursue him, maybe. I cannot stop thinking about him (the other guy). But I don't want to cheat on my boyfriend. Is it okay to talk to this other guy? WHAT DO I SAY TO MY BOYFRIEND TO LET HIM KNOW I NEED TO LIVE LIFE A LITTLE AND DON'T WANT TO BE TIED DOWN TO HIM? HELP!!!!
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| Fri, 03-19-2004 - 6:36am |
Be honest and tell him you want to see other people. I never heard a good relationship described as "he doesn't cheat on me"' - what about going for "we love and respect and care for each other and have a whole lot of fun with each other."
| Fri, 03-19-2004 - 10:51am |
Tell him you want to see someone else. Don't be too surprised if that's the end of the relationship, though, and be prepared for that. Personally, I wouldn't recommend getting involved with the new guy until you've made a clean break with the old one.
| Fri, 03-19-2004 - 2:00pm |
i know where you are comming from!! there is no harm in continuing to talk to this new guy! if you decide that you really like him and want to persue it GO FOR IT!!! you need to let your boyfriend know that you need a break, or that you want to break up. explain to him that your not ready for marriage and that you feel like you need to expierience life more as a woman! you were a child when the two of you got together and you should enjoy these young years!!! i have just come to this realization in the past 5 days, and i have realized that i want to travel, get up and go whenever i want, and if that means a vacation alone so be it! i'm too young to be tied down, and i'm going to enjoy my freedom! marriage would be nice in a year or 2, and kids in about 4-5 would be ok. i want to travel and have fun before all of that happens though! i'm in no hurry!!! if its true love it will work out! with either guy! don't be afraid to do what makes you happy!! this is your life, not theirs, it won't be his until you marry! i wish i would have learned that a few years ago!!! i'm 21 and i have decided that i'm going to enjoy my life while its mine and mine alone, before i'm sharing it with someone else. enjoy being single or just dating for fun, to make new friends, not find a mate right this minute! good luck to you!! may you have much freedom and fun before you marry!!! :)
