Is this cause for concern?

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Registered: 11-07-2004
Is this cause for concern?
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Sun, 11-07-2004 - 10:03pm
I have been dating a wonderful guy for nearly seven months. We are compatible on all levels, important and trivial. Our relationship has all of the components people generally seek: romance, fun and playfullness, mutual interests, shared goals, similar ethics and morals, etc. He is completely wonderful to me and there have been no red flags thus far. I'm very much a part of his life, have met some of his family, hang with his social group, and he calls me his 'girl', 'girlfriend', 'sweetheart', etc. Everthing is going great and he's doing all of the things that a devoted boyfriend does, and even constantly surprising me with doing things that no other boyfriend has previously for me. The only thing that has left me a bit somewhat confused lately is the fact that there has been no verbal confirmations of love. In fairness to him, I should say that he's extremely conservative when it comes to the timeline of a relationship. All of the signs are there, but no verbal action yet. My rational side tells me that we're just taking babysteps with regard to what we say, and I keep reminding myself to look at all of the ways he SHOWS love, everyday. I guess I'd like to hear from other people who have been in relationships where maybe it took the guy a while to spell it out.


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Registered: 11-07-2004
Sun, 11-07-2004 - 11:10pm
Well, in my opinion, if the two of you are being intament then run for the hills but if you haven't consummated your relationship then be patient. You should be able to tell someone honestly that you love them before having a physical relationship.

If two people have not agreed to be monogamous don't expect it. Sometimes even when they agree to be one is not. Trust until given a reason not to trust. Tell him what you want from your relationship and ask him to tell you what he wants. If the two of you can agree then GREAT!

My heart is aching but I'll save that for another day.