Caving after a week???

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Registered: 10-20-2005
Caving after a week???
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Tue, 07-24-2007 - 4:05pm
I've been seeing this guy for a week. Haven't heard from him in four days. Could he be caving already?? I called him two days ago, he didn't answer :-( (I know I know.....I'm stupid.) No more calling....

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Registered: 11-30-2006
Tue, 07-24-2007 - 5:04pm
He's doing the "pull back" already? You called two days ago and leave it at that. What a wimp. I feel that men who play this game are wimps. They dont respect women who can stand toe to toe with them. They have to have some sort of advantage because they see dating as a sporting event instead of finding love.
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Registered: 10-20-2005
Tue, 07-24-2007 - 9:16pm
Update! He called me tonight. I didn't answer the phone. What should I do??
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Registered: 05-01-2006
Wed, 07-25-2007 - 10:20am
You should call him back! I think you need to cut him a little slack. You've only been dating him a week and 4 days of not hearing from him is not a big deal in my book. He did return your call from 2 days ago (and it is okay that it took him a couple days to get back to you.) Next step is to call him back and be perfectly normal. Hopefully you guys can make arrangments to get together again. Moving forward, try not to read too much into the time it takes him to get back to you (unless of course it's an unreasonable amount of time) and try not to play games like not answering the phone when he calls you back. You'll feel much more at ease and hopefully can enjoy the process of getting to know him. Good luck!
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Registered: 04-23-2007
Wed, 07-25-2007 - 2:01pm
NO way you should call him. That's great that you didn't pick up. Now wait till he calls you again and just go on with your life, stay busy. If he wants you, he will call again! If he doesn't, he is really not that interested. Trust me from experience! Good luck!
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Registered: 11-30-2006
Wed, 07-25-2007 - 2:41pm

Since I am not into games...you may want to pay closer attention to the advise of the seasoned veterans on the board who have been through it.

You do have options:
1)play the unavailable game back and have no mercy - but no real connection or relationship may develop from it - thus call him back maybe in a few days.
2)try to get to know him anyway...but if he is into games how can you be assured that he will not pull the rug out from under you later if you do end up feeling for the guy?- call him back when you feel comfortable and get to know him on the phone a bit before going out with him.
3)play the coy yet available game and see what happens...keeping his attempts at game playing in the back of your mind so that you do not fall so fast for the guy. - meaning..you wait a day or so and call back with a real casual attitude.
4)forget about him and not call back at all.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 07-26-2007 - 1:36pm

Most (normal, non-stalker) guys won't call again if their call is not returned, as they would assume that's a sign the woman is no longer interested in them (and they'd be right in many cases).

So unless she wants to send a signal that she's no longer interested, she should return the call.

Sheri

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Thu, 07-26-2007 - 5:26pm

Umm, NO.

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Registered: 11-30-2006
Thu, 07-26-2007 - 5:55pm
Sheri and vexer give good advice. Like I mentioned in above post, I am not into these games and rules. But I am into manners...and it applies to us and men.
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Registered: 04-23-2007
Fri, 07-27-2007 - 9:40am
I understand where you are coming from, but not calling her for four days is not rude? That's their first week of being together and he already pulled such s**t! I wonder what kind of stuff would he do when they would be togethr longer.
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Registered: 10-17-2002
Fri, 07-27-2007 - 11:02am

So being immature and rude and "punishing" him or "giving him a taste of his own medicine" is a good idea?

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