Caving after a week???

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Registered: 10-20-2005
Caving after a week???
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Tue, 07-24-2007 - 4:05pm
I've been seeing this guy for a week. Haven't heard from him in four days. Could he be caving already?? I called him two days ago, he didn't answer :-( (I know I know.....I'm stupid.) No more calling....

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 07-27-2007 - 1:55pm

Uh, no. Four days is hardly a long time!

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Registered: 11-30-2006
Fri, 07-27-2007 - 3:01pm
A little OT, but some people (men and women) cannot be reasoned with sometimes. Sometimes because this world has conditioned everyone to only see the world and their actions through their own eyes...that they do need to have their actions presented back to them. This "me" thinking doesn't permit any empathy or caring. Unfortunately, sometimes, that rude behavior is the only way to knock sense into someone so that they can start to see their actions from the eyes of another. It is not the #1 choice, but it does work in those circumstances. Sure, wouldn't it be nice to just say, "I dont' like to be treated that way." and then *poof* magically someone starts to treat you better and you never have to say a word again...but that is not reality sometimes. Just a thought.
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Registered: 10-17-2002
Fri, 07-27-2007 - 4:33pm

Well, sure.

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Registered: 11-30-2006
Fri, 07-27-2007 - 6:44pm

Oh, of course when it comes to the OP reason and communication comes first.

I agree with your statement: "If it takes me having to be rude in order to get my message across. That's just not worth it to me." But I'm seeing that this world kind of changed and everyone is in a ME FIRST mentality and not just that, they are, for some reason, unable to see anything from anyone else's point of view. Obviously you are able to still see things from different vantage points, as well as I.

"And if I do communicate what I want and that person continues to behave in the same way they always have, then I can choose to take myself out of that equation."--->always the best alternative for me as well. But think about those poor people married to each other, trying to work things out because they have kids and not knowing what to do and yet one party refuses to go beyond ME FIRST. I have been married and in a similar situation and the only way out was to remove myself from the situation. I have been married and I have been happy...happy is better. hehehe. Actually...in a seriousness, I have been married and happy at the same time, so I know it is achievable.

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Registered: 10-20-2005
Fri, 07-27-2007 - 11:18pm
Update! I talked to him today while he was at work. He told me he would call me when he got home (of course....he didn't). I'm starting to think he doesn't like me or want to talk to me anymore. I haven't seen him in a week :-(
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Registered: 11-30-2006
Sat, 07-28-2007 - 11:23pm
I would get the same impression as you; that he is no longer interested. I guess it is time to say "next?!"
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Registered: 04-15-2003
Sun, 07-29-2007 - 3:44pm

Don't worry that you called a few days ago. But yes, let him make the next move and if he doesn't, well then you know not to waste energy over him.


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