Cell Phone Bills Don't Lie

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Registered: 05-22-2004
Cell Phone Bills Don't Lie
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Tue, 08-23-2005 - 12:13pm
Last night my BF asked me to bring up his mail to him and I came across his cell phone bill with many phone calls to a particular city that I remembered he had told me that he was seeing some girl (when we first met). Well, I went ahead and looked at the dates and seen that they were text messaging each other very recently at least 4-6 times a day for days straight. I had no idea who this was and thought that perhaps I was wrong and that maybe it was one of this male friends. I went ahead and called the number and was surprised to hear a former classmates voice. We both know her (obviously) and he has trained for races with her in the past. I never would have thought anything else, except he was acting really scared and caught. I asked why they were text messaging each other and talking on the phone almost everyday and he said that they were talking about running and working out antics. Yeah right, from times 7:00pm to 9:49 pm. I told him to jsut tell the truth and I'd respect him more and he wouldn't confess except that he did say that her and her BF broke up briefly last year and he did hint that they should go out. But they never did. I kicked him out and we are no longer together, so I guess we can actually call him my ex BF, but I want an explaination from her as well, since he won't be honest. I have her phoen number and want to call her and ask some simple questions like why would they text msg each other knowing that they both have BF/GF. Did they ever go out? and really that's it. I've been with this guy for 8 months, invited him into my home and into my children's lives and I think that I deserve an explanation. Should I call her or count this as a loss? I am really angry and feel betrayed by him, why did he do this?
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Registered: 04-14-2003
Tue, 08-23-2005 - 12:19pm
Don't call this lady, she is free to text message with whomever she wants. You will make a fool of yourself. You are obviously uncomfortable with your man communicating with this lady and suggesting they go out understandably, you have already broken up with him, let it go.
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Registered: 04-14-2005
Wed, 08-24-2005 - 6:08pm
Why do you need to know why they did what they did? All you need to know is they talked and communicated during your relationship. The reason is obvious. You don't need to hear it from them, actions speak louder than words, right? Move on, forget him and her and find someone you can trust.