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| Mon, 02-27-2006 - 12:38pm |
I'm now at the end of my rope, I believe. My guy is great in so many ways- but disrespectful stints like this one last night almost has be bailing.
We were finally "doing the deed" (he's under intense stress; it kills our sex life) and it was great. His cell phone rang; he threw me off of him, went to the living room and answered it! It was his friend only calling to chat- he talked to him for three minutes and hung up. Of course, when he came back I was soooooo upset. He simply walked in, said ",Don't be mad", and passed out next to me. That was it. No apology, no getting started again, nothing.
WELL, I jumped up when I heard him happily snoring- and I gathered my stuff and said I was leaving. I was so hurt, I could not sleep at all. It was 11 pm, freezing cold, and we were both slighly lit (very slightly) from drinking margaritas. He just said, "You sure you wanna leave?" I said yes, I can't be treated like this.
He walked me out the door to my car, and that was it. Never called to see if I at least got home okay- never called this morning. Nothing.
I feel so disrespected, taken for granted and totally uncared for.
Is this breakup material?

I have very low tolerance for this type of behavior but that's just me. I love to use situations exactly like this to put guys in their place.
In my last NSA I was treated better than you're being treated by your boyfriend...sorry but it's true...but I did however break it off with him because he was somewhat disrepectful also. He asked me to turn the light on for him b/c he was too busy reading the newspaper to get up. Jerk.
I'm just kidding around to some degree, because I hardly had the same feelings for my NSA relationship that you must have for your b/f. But the moral of the story is: this isn't the first time he's treated you this way, is it? I feel sorry for you b/c he's disrespectful, but on the other hand I get the feeling you got here somehow, maybe by allowing rudeness to rule the day. Don't put up with it!!! Ever! Start earlier next time, before it gets this bad...
Go ahead, correct me if I'm wrong...
Thank you for your level-headed insight. Rude behavior is 100% accurate in this case. I am in the process of "tearing into him" (but rationally, and maturely, I promise) over this now. He KNOWS this deed has pushed me.
He knows I am such a "nice" girl- he even says it. Guess I'm too nice.
Nice girls seem to finish last. I recently read the book "Why men love B's" by Sherry Argov. I believe this a must read for all single women. This book isn't about being a self centered "B", but about getting what we want from our r-ships (and there is NOTHING wrong with getting what you want). She shows in this book that we "teach" people how to treat us. Gf's that are too nice, end up becoming doormats.
Think of a scale with numbers from 1 to 10 on it. 10 being at the top, represents the best possible behaviour in every area that a person can display. 1, being the worst. Most people by nature will behave on the lowest behavioural level that is allowed. It is human nature to "push the envelope" to see how much they can get away with. Before you know it, you are in a rut being taken for granted and disprespected. Hopefully you told this cad that his behaviour is unacceptable, and he'll either get his act together, or decide that you are "too much work". If he decides you are "too much work" to maintain a r-ship with, then he really did you a favour. Do you really want to continue in a r-ship with a bloke like that?