is this changing???

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Registered: 03-26-2004
is this changing???
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Sat, 05-15-2004 - 1:32pm


I've posted about my fwb situation before, but there seems to be things that come up that I have to wonder about. The other night after I was with him, we were laying together on the couch talking about our common interest in triathlons(he did an Ironman!). He was in an accident about a year ago, and hasn't been able to train hard since. I am training for one right now, and whenever we talk about it I always encourage him to do what makes him happy and not to forget about how the race made him feel. He runs a business in the hospitality industry right now, so between being so busy and tired from that, he doesn't have the energy to put all his effort into his training. Anyways, he told me that he got on his bike for the first time a few days ago. For some reason, I think that I have inspired him to do it again. I always try to make whoever I am with feel good about themselves.

So we were laying on the couch, and I find that we just caress and nuzzle each other alot afterwards(non sexually). He stares into my eyes the whole time, or plays with my hair. He had to get up early, so we decided that I wouldn't stay that night. He told me he would walk me to my car, which was up the road. So we dressed and started walking. This took me by surprise- he didn't say a word, but grabbed my hand and intertwined it with his as we walked and talked. Then, almost at my car, there was a patch of wildflower poppies. He reached down, picked a handful and gave them to me- again without saying a word. Then once at my car, we talked a bit(about something totally unrelated) and he gave me a kiss on the lips goodnight( and I thanked him for the flowers, and said it was really sweet).

I could assume, but what do you think his actions are telling me? Thanks in advance!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 05-15-2004 - 1:54pm
His actions to me are totally consistent with being FWB. There's no law against treating someone you're in that type of r'ship with with consideration and affection.

Unless he TELLS you that he wants to change the status of your r'ship, do not assume his actions mean anything.

Sheri