Cheating &Needs To Be Caught

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Registered: 10-09-2006
Cheating &Needs To Be Caught
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Mon, 10-09-2006 - 3:01pm
This is the deal....I know what I am about to ask is wrong in a way but in a way it is not...I have been seeing this guy for about a year.Over the weekend I found out that he has a girlfriend and he told me he was single.I am wanting to narc him out to her cause I dont think he should be doing this to her or me.I am done with him and am ending things with him now that I know this information,but I dont think he should get away with this either...This is what I am wanting advice on...I know I can not just tell her or confront him on it cause he will cover his tracks.What I am wanting to do is find a way to leave evidence of some sort either on him or somewhere else to prove he is cheating and that way he can not lie about it to her.Anyone have any ideas?
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Registered: 11-21-2003
Mon, 10-09-2006 - 4:35pm

The other girl will learn in time that he's a dog. She doesn't need your help. In fact, it's possible that if you tell her about his cheating ways it all could backfire. Remember that a woman who's dating a man, a cheater or not, tends to be defensive and protective of her man. He'll convinced her in no time. Just like he did it to you for a year.

Why do you want to go the extra mile for this cheating scum bag type of man? Leave him alone and to his own luck. Move on and start your healing. Yes, you're hurt and angry, but is he worth all the effort you're putting into this?

Whoever takes time to figure out and give you ideas on how to leave tracks so he can be caugth is someone who's really angry, stuck in a bitter place and looking for ways to get back at the man. The reality is that he's happy with his new GF and she's stuck in a bitter place. That stage could last months and even years if the thinking of "getting him cauhgt" is your mind.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 10-09-2006 - 4:39pm

trace66012...

Here are Pianoguy's thoughts....all of which YOU'LL PROBABLY HATE?

1. You should STOP seeing this man immediately. He doesn't deserve an explanation why.

2. Do NOT contact the girlfriend by phone or email with any rant about him that you have. Simply because he'll deny everything and will portray you as a jealous, spiteful woman who is BORDERLINE CRAZY!

3. If you HAVE to "leave something"----mail her a copy of his picture with you WITHOUT ANY NOTE ATTACHED. The lady will come up with questions of her own.

But if you choose to follow my last suggestion...go on with your life WITHOUT HIM!

That's it!

Pianoguy