Chemistry like crazy, yet no call..?

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Registered: 03-22-2006
Chemistry like crazy, yet no call..?
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Wed, 03-22-2006 - 12:14pm

Ok, there is this 22 yr old man whom I'm interested in. We meet through a friend on a trip to magic mountain, my friend planned it so i was paired up with him on almost every single ride. We had a blast, he is so shy yet still funny, absolutely adorable, and we seem to have alot of chemistry. I have hung out with him a couple times since then in a group of friends, we constantly lock eyes and smile and flirt, my friend has pulled me aside a couple times noting that he is into me...yet come the end of each night, no digit exchange...

So finally after about a month of going insane wondering what is going on, I got his number from my friend. I called him Monday night, but i woke him up out of what seemed a dead sleep. It was only about 9pm, but he does have to be to work at 5am. He said he didn't remember me... WTH??? I KNOW he remembers me, could it be he was just really tired or is he playing dumb with me? And he hasn't called back, I feel like an idiot. My friend says he likes me, how come he hasn't called back? Help...i'm so confused.

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Registered: 11-21-2003
Wed, 03-22-2006 - 12:24pm
Have you thought about the possibility of "the chemestry not being so strong on his part"? This could be the reason why he hasn't called or why he doesn't remember you. It seems that you're totally invested in this guy and you two haven't had a formal date yet. You hung out a few times and that's it. The flirting and locking of the eyes could have been just a thing of the moment. If he wanted to pursue more he'd have done it by now. Even shy guys go forward. I'd suggest to stop chasing him and just let him take the initiative to call you. If he wants to call you he can get your number from your friend just like you did.
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Registered: 03-22-2006
Wed, 03-22-2006 - 12:38pm
Well as depressing as it is to hear, lol, i guess your right. Thank you for taking the time to reply. Jen
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Registered: 04-15-2003
Thu, 03-23-2006 - 4:27pm
I'm sure there is chemistry but you never really know what is going on in someone's life and/or in their head, maybe he's shy or otherwise engaged but from here on in let him be the one to call or not call. And move on - there are plenty of other guys out there who won't be as exasperating with whom you'll share chemistry and ultimately more
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