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chemistry question
| Sat, 03-04-2006 - 10:11pm |
I've asked this question on a couple of boards before but not on this one. How many of you think that some chemistry is necessary for a relationship to start? How important is chemistry for you?

Some folks believe that chemistry is instantaneous, others believe is can grow. But regardless of how it starts, I think it is key for a relationship. Chemistry to me is what makes you smile when you see that person, it's what gives you butterflies when you kiss, it's what will hold the relationship together in the long run.
But, that's just my 2 cents... ;o)
If you don't have it why bother being with that person...
You need to feel the excitement of the relationship...
I remember my ex i had chemistry with him for almost 3yrs of our relationship...
that was great... but everything dies down.
Let's not confuse chemistry with plain ol' hormones ;)
How ironic -- I posted to another thread just an hour ago saying "people, beware of guys like my ex!" (of almost 8 years, boyfriend, not husband) and now I am here to talk about the intense chemistry we had. But we did, and this is what makes you respect, appreciate the person, be happy just sitting next to them (we would go on these vacations, up in the mountains, in remote parts of Europe -- I'm European -- with no TV, or any other entertainment but each other's company, and it has always been great: yes, even a month before we broke up'in the fall of 2004, it was still great!)
So, while I am seeking similar intensity when it comes to connection and the chemistry, I am also trying to be more mature about my choices, but yes, chemistry is important!
Physical chemistry is of course important but sometimes it develops more slowly as a couple who initially don't have irresistable urges to jump each other's bones spend time together and discover different types of chemistry - the same values, the same sense of humor, enjoying the same hobbies, etc
when all a couple has is sexual attraction, it can burn out quick. And also to some people sex is everything while to others it's just a small part of the package. So - different strokes for different folks!