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Registered: 10-13-2004
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Wed, 10-13-2004 - 3:01pm
I am currently dating someone who I met at a party. We both had had a lot to drink and got carried away with eachother. I've never done anything like that before.

The next time we met we were both completely different and reserved for over a month before we were intimate again. It's been over two months now. I really like this guy but I'm not sure about establishing a relationship with someone who I met the way I did. I don't want to look worse in his eyes, etc. - but I like him more than I've liked someone in a long time.
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Registered: 06-13-2003
Wed, 10-13-2004 - 3:37pm
Having sex the first time you meet someone doesn't automatically mean it won't work out in the end. Please discard from your mind any notion you have that what you did at the party somehow makes you worse as a person or unworthy of him liking you. You did something that probably wasn't the wisest choice, but...since then you have both decided you wanted to see one another and take it slow. What's the problem? It's not how *he* thinks of you that matters (if he thought bad of you would he still be pursuing you at a slower pace?). The important thing is how you view yourself. It's best to take things slow and keep intimacy for after you know someone better, but...sometimes things don't happen that way and they still work out. Look at all the people who *do* take things very slow and after years are still unhappy or not in the place in the relationship they want to be. The pace things go is not the determining factor in the result of the relationship. That's determined by the two people and how right of a fit they turn out to be after time goes by. Just take it slow and make good choices for you. Also, if the way you met him bothers you, perhaps you should learn from that that drinking too much doesn't suit you and you'll make different choices at future parties. Good luck.