closure

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Registered: 10-01-2006
closure
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Wed, 10-04-2006 - 7:02pm
Everyone always say maybe I didnt get closure? Maybe you need closure? I ended a relationship because I was angry and I keep thinking about the person I know hes not good for me he tries to make me angry but I want him. How do I get closure?
Any advise?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: ycb2006
Wed, 10-04-2006 - 7:21pm

Closure is accepting that it's over and that you weren't right for each other. It's not something you "get" from someone else but something you give to yourself. Focus on reaching acceptance (and that usually takes time and no contact as well), and once you reach acceptance, you'll get your closure.

Sheri

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Registered: 04-15-2003
In reply to: ycb2006
Fri, 10-06-2006 - 4:05pm

If possible it's good to have a conversation - an exit interview as it were.


if that's not possible write a note saying goodbye, detailing all the reasons why, then rip the note and flush it (and him) down the toilet

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Registered: 10-01-2006
In reply to: ycb2006
Fri, 10-06-2006 - 9:28pm

I will try the letter.
Why do we always want the guys that arnt good for us?
Im not giving up I went out the past couple of nights, Im finding there are a lot of men to pick from maybe one of them will be right, and if not Im going to have fun trying them out.

Thanks for the advise.

Yvonne