Commitment

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Registered: 04-16-2006
Commitment
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Sun, 11-25-2007 - 6:02pm
I am 40 and have been married and divorced one time.
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Registered: 10-14-1999
In reply to: rke32005
Sun, 11-25-2007 - 6:59pm

no - commitment isn't too much to ask for - BUT it takes 2 people wanting similar things in life AND being compatible for each other for 'commitment' to have a chance.


If you feel you pick the same kinds of men - and relationships withthose men go nowhere - well, the first thing to do would be to see why you are picking men who aren't commitment minded! Hon, you are part of the equation - so if you don't like the result, change your part.


Until you know with 100% clarity who you are, what you want in your life and in a partner, the likelihood is great that you will continue with this pattern.


There are some great books available out there to help you address the issues within that are keeping you from real love and commitment - one of my favorites is a 7 week workbook called 'Calling in the One" I can't remember who its by - but it's on Amazon.


Look first at what you are contributing to these dead end relatioinships - you are choosing them. Until you understand that and correct it, you will not get different results.


Hon, if you want genuine love and commitment from a man, you must first offer it to yourself. If that level of love and intimacy is worth it to you, then do the work necessary to get rid of the issues keeping you stuck.

Toni

Toni

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-10-2007
In reply to: rke32005
Mon, 11-26-2007 - 10:54am

"what happened to commitment forever.

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Registered: 04-15-2003
In reply to: rke32005
Mon, 11-26-2007 - 12:35pm

People do commit though it's never a fairytale -


However you need to examine your choices - you said for 6 years you were eye candy for this guy, what does this mean, he never took it as a serious relationship?

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