Commitmentphobia...is it real?

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Registered: 02-23-2005
Commitmentphobia...is it real?
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Thu, 09-14-2006 - 11:30pm

Going through a break up. Bought "He's Scared, She's Scared" as recommended reading (in reference to my particular break up). This books seems to hit the nail right on the head.

Is this a convenient phobia/theory?

What are your thoughts?

It really, really seems to accurately explain the relationship I was just dumped from. Me, being the passive player, and my BF being the active player (meaning, leaving when the going gets good...or gets real).

Anyone read this book? I just skipped to the end (last chapter: recovering froma CP relationship).

It's ridiculous how accurate it is...but am I gullible? Am I just reading what I want to believe? What if your CP picks another woman? Will he do the same to her as long as it's not "real?"

Discuss. Thanks.

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Registered: 07-28-2006
Thu, 09-21-2006 - 12:54pm

I couldn't agree more!

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Registered: 04-15-2003
Fri, 09-22-2006 - 5:15pm

It's possible. There are different types of commitment-phobia -


and timing has something to do with it as well, if someone is finally ready to make a comitment to making a commitment, then he'll work on a relationship. If he's still letting his fear rule him, then he will run when it gets as you put it - real

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