Communication with your SO
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Communication with your SO
| Fri, 06-23-2006 - 12:24pm |
I am in a pretty serious relationship for the first time in my life. I am 26 years old and I believe that I am falling in love with this man. He is everything I could ask for in a partner. He hasn't been in many other serious relationships either so this is all pretty new to us. We are together as much as we can. We have totally different work schedules so it makes it really hard. He manages a restaurant at night and I work 9-5 during the week. I didn't see him for 2 days and I finally saw him on Wednesday night. It is hard to communicate how I am feeling and instead I was acting short and snappy with him. Finally later on in the night I told him that I am sad that we have different schedules and I wish I could see more of him, etc. I know that he is stressed and doesn't like the hrs either so I just wanted to be supportive and not bother him with me being upset. He said he didn't want me to be upset and that it was his job. I told him that I support him in whatever it is that he does. Right before we went to bed he leaned over and told me that he cared about me very much and I told him that I care about him more that I have with anyone else. I left work work in the morning and kissed him goodbye and he said, "See ya, have a good day." He didn't call me last night when he got off and he ALWAYS does. So when I woke up at around 2am I started to panick like I had freaked him out by telling him how I feel and all that. I sent him a simple text message, "Good Night." And he responded right away with "Have a great night, babe." I just don't know why he didn't call and I don't know what to think about being so open. I was a bit rude to him before telling him all that because I was holding it all in and I hope I didn't hurt his feelings. Im just confused, I just have never been so vulnerable and I am so used to it not working out that I am scared to death because in reality I think he is the "one."
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| Fri, 06-23-2006 - 1:24pm |
So, he didn't call one night or for a few day? If it is just one night and the tm was in lew of a phone call, don't despair. He may have been a bit POed about your snappy attitude, but I'm sure he'll get over it. Don't walk on eggshells or hide your feelings. Feelings are part of every relationship and you have every right to express what your feeling. But you need to express these things in a straightforward manner (not at being snappy and expecting him to figure out what is eating you). If you continue to repress your frustration over his work schedule, the frustration will still come out (in your case, through crankiness). So you're better off being forward about what you're feeling.
| Fri, 06-23-2006 - 3:20pm |
I know I can't expect him to read my mind and its not fair of me to be snappy.

