Comparing men Ladies?

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Registered: 07-17-2004
Comparing men Ladies?
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Sat, 07-17-2004 - 2:59am
Ok ladies i have a few questions for you!

You and your man who is now your x part ways. Do you look for the same or better with the next guy? Do you dump him if he's not up to par with the x in any way? Do you compare your new lover with the x?

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Registered: 10-18-2003
Sat, 07-17-2004 - 11:42am
to answer your questions would be useful to have their background first..

i can answer from personal perspective only - my x was a great guy and the most caring bf in the world. i surely want my next relationship be as strong and loving as the previous one.

but it does'nt mean that i'll be looking for the exact same type, same personality, etc and will be comparing every word he'll say. it will be a completely different person. i think everyone has some core values they hold on to in relationship so one can see similar trends, but only to that extent

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Registered: 02-04-2004
Sat, 07-17-2004 - 12:16pm
Do you look for the same or better with the next guy?

after my 1st serious rel'shp, i was definitely looking for someone better

but i met someone last year...and i wish i could find someone just like him

Do you dump him if he's not up to par with the x in any way?

not right away, b/c i think there's always room for improvement. if there is no improvement and i cant see a future w/ them then yes, its terminated

Do you compare your new lover with the x?

YES!!!!! we had amazing sex since day 1 and its hard to compete

though i know it can improve, its hard not to compare


Edited 7/17/2004 12:17 pm ET ET by hockeybabe83

 

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Registered: 06-13-2004
Sat, 07-17-2004 - 1:28pm
Never compare (