Confessions of a broken mind
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Confessions of a broken mind
| Tue, 01-10-2006 - 9:55am |
hi all,
i think I'm going crazy... ok, my last relationship lasted for 5 yrs and it turned out that both of us ended up cheating on the other. fast fwd 2 yrs later, i always thougtht that once me and my ex broke up for good all the worries about where he's at, what he's doing, who he's with would all disappear. however, i have once again entered into another relationship. i must admit its been a pretty good relationship so far - there has been bumps in the road but nothing's perfect.
the problem is - is that i'm constantly accusing him of cheating. i never found any evidence and i've assumed but nothing concrete. i'm afraid that b/c of my insecurities i might drive him away. what should i do?
thanks,
ravishing

yes, i believe that i still have those old feelings inside of my head, and its not fair to my new bf at all. i want to tell him where all my feelings of insecurity are coming from but i've often heard that its never good to tell your current bf about all the wrongs the previous bf committed.
whew, i've often heard that matters of the heart can be tricky but what about matters of the mind?
thanks for reading and responding.
ravisihing
hi ravishing..
i believe you can work on yourself. try to think before you act or say anything. by being aware of yourself, i believe you can go a long way in creating the relationship you want.
if you know you are doubting needlessly, then yes, the relationship might really suffer and might even end.
see if you can just hold back, and correct your perspectives before reacting in a way that shows that you don't trust him. start small. have faith in yourself. let go of your fears. communicate more with your BF. have him reassure you often.
trust is the backbone of a healthy relationship.
you might even think of going for counseling sessions to talk things out...and gain important insights into yourself. i know all this is easier said than done, but i believe there is immense room for positive change once we are certain and believe in our goals.