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| Sun, 06-24-2007 - 5:27pm |
So I've been dating this guy for two months now and he's technically my first boyfriend. We started dating after we had known each other for 5 days (you know how college is) and everything was fine. And it still is. But now I'm starting to think I just want to break up with him...I don't know what to do. There's this other guy I liked for 4 years and we decided to be "just friends" last year, but I keep thinking about him now and he's the guy that I compare all other guys to. I almost feel like I'm not giving my boyfriend enough of a chance but he almost annoys me and I really just kind of want to be single. But we've only been dating for two months! I don't know what to do...I just feel like there's nothing really there and I don't want to waste time with a relationship that's not going to go anywhere. Please give me some advice! Thanks!

Your hurt can only be healed with time. Unfortunately your BF is not able to take your mind off of this friend. I know this may sound bad, but you might feel better if you let the BF and the friend go and just grieve over the unrequited love. This way you can flush it from your system faster. If you continue to date your BF, or any other guy who you are not in love with, it will only complicate your life and take a long time to get your friend out of your heart. Being in touch with your friend is not going to make it any easier either. I know that if I fell for a guy who was my friend and he didn't reciprocate my feelings I would have to cease contact with him. If I really cared for the guy then I would have to be a real friend and let him go and live his life.
I know you dont' feel it now, but someone else will come along one day who you will fall for - and he wont remind you of this friend. I have not been in your position (fell for a friend - and kept a friend who I had feelings for), but I know what it feels like to think that there is only one guy who I could love (and compare others to him), but eventually you do become interested in other people and, surprise!, you feel something special again.