confused

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Registered: 03-25-2006
confused
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Tue, 12-05-2006 - 1:10pm
So I recently starting seeing this new guy and he is the sweetest thing I have ever met... So we work together and recently we started hanging out. So last night we were hanging out.. Now mind you I am 21 years old and a virgin the only thing I have done with a guy was kissing I am even embarrassed to say that. So last night I went to this guys house and we were watching TV. In the heat of the moment I ended up topless and we were making out. then he started asking me if I wanted to touch him.. Honestly I am scared about sex and all the stuff that goes along with it. So the point of my story is this guy wasn't the best kisser.. It was very sloppy and a lot of toungue.. I like the guy but hate the way he kisses any advice??? Also another question is how long is too long for a guy to wait to have sex. While we were kissing last night he ended up on top of me I asked him what he was doing and he said he was getting into position.. I was freaked out about that.. PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Registered: 04-14-2003
In reply to: pinkpixie18
Tue, 12-05-2006 - 1:26pm
Before you start up with the sex, you might want to see whether this guy will be willing to take you out on a date, and become boyfriend and girlfriend first. If he has kissing issues you need to maybe have a discussion about that, show him what you want. If you aren't interested in having sex right away you need to tell him.
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Registered: 12-03-2006
In reply to: pinkpixie18
Thu, 12-07-2006 - 8:17pm

If you're freaked out by events moving towards sex, don't have sex. I lost my virginity at 21 too, and I'm glad it was with the guy it was, because I was comfortable around him and we're still dating and happy. If I had slept with one of the random guys that tried to hook up with me, I probably wouldn't be as happy. Get more comfortable with sex, think of solo techniques, reading, something to be more familiar, but as long as you're freaking out, you won't enjoy yourself, and it isn't fair to either of you. If you aren't at all comfortable with the idea, fine.

And the guy will wait as long as you want him to, or he isn't worth it. After a few *dates* the subject might come up, and it might be a deal breaker for him, but if he's the right guy for you he'll give you time to decide.

And when you do decide, you'll be ok with it, more comfortable, and you can have a much more fun sex life ;)