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| Sun, 10-23-2005 - 8:55pm |
Ok, so my friend and I were out at a bar on Wednesday night. I remember one of my co-workers had mentioned how her son DJ's at the bar that we were at that night. I overheard his voice on the speaker, mentioning his name, so I was pretty sure it was him. My friend told me to go ask if it was him, but I was too shy too, so she made me go up to him with her and ask him. Turns out, it was the son of my co-worker. He is 25, I'm 21, FYI. He asked what my name was, what I did at the job I work with his mom at, and then mentioned with a smile that he'll "have to ask his mom about me". I have no problem with his mom-her and I get along great, and I love her to death, and I'm pretty sure she likes me just the same.
Towards the end of the night, I was talking to other guys that approached me, but made sure to give the DJ eye contact constantly, to show that I was interested in him. He kept smiling at me, and staring at me up until the bar closed. When it was time to go, he eagerly asked, "So, do you want my number, or can I get yours, or what?" I told him that I would give him my number. He handed me his cell phone for me to program it into his phone. At this point I was a little intoxicated, but truthfully kept my composure the whole night, since I did not want him to know that I was a little tipsy. Well, I wasn't able to figure out how to program my number in his phone, so my friend told him my number. We said our good-byes, and I have not heard from him. This was four days ago. I mentioned to his mom how I had met her son (not saying anything about the number exchange or how I was interested in him). She was glad to hear that I had met him, and asked if I introduced myself, and I said yes. She also mentioned how busy he has been with DJ'ing, saying how he had 6 weddings and 3 bars to DJ at just this past weekend.
So, my concern is that I realize how extremely busy he is, but I do not understand why he couldn't have taken a few minutes just to call me, if he was truly interested in me.
The other thing is, is he is at this bar that we were at every single wednesday, and knows that I work with his mom, and that most likely I will come back on other wednesdays to this bar, since it is ladies night those nights.
My question then is, taking all of this into consideration, why would he risk the embarrassment of seeing me again, knowing all this by not calling me yet?
My friend told me to wait until at least Monday, because he might not want to seem to "eager". I'm just getting a little impatient, because it seemed like we really clicked right away, and I am normally not attracted to a guy so strongly after meeting for the first time.
Any comments or suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

First of all you said you had lots of chemistry for him, but you have no clue whether he had chemistry for you. A DJ is in the people business, he might have a pile of ladies' numbers.
Second, 6 weddings and 3 bars in one weekend. I hope this guy had time to breathe, much less call you. He was very busy. If I had promised to call somebody over the weekend with that schedule most likely it wouldn't have gotten done. (I got busy too this weekend and I am have a few apologies to spread around this morning too)
Third, your friend told him your number. Did he write it down? Did he plan to memorize it. Memorizing 10 digits while you are drinking is next to impossible.
Fourth, I doubt he'll be embarrassed. If you give him a hard time about it he will probably must apologize and not worry about your hurt feelings.
My suggestion to you is forget about him being embarrassed, your impatience and his mother and phone calling in general. Next Wednesday ask him out for coffee, drinks, sailing, bowling whatever. Set a clear objective for Tuesday night or whenever so you aren't dependent on phone calls that may or may not happen.
I don't have the courage to ask him out for coffee or anything, next time I see him if he doesn't call--I just am too shy!
I think that if by chance he got your number wrong he could always ask his mom, besides I'm pretty sure his mom asked him if he meet you that night. If he had called you and gotten the wrong number he would have told his mom and she would be telling you of this.
I would just let it go, like i said he could ask his mom about you and find out if there was a misunderstanding. Guys are not as clueless as we think.
yaddie2005...
PG LOVED THE LAST LINE OF YOUR POST: "GUYS ARE NOT AS CLUELESS AS WE THINK!"
As for blueeyedgirl06...."hiding behind shyness" is a cop-out excuse for fear of failure. You either want to be with another human being...or you don't? And the only way you can confirm whether you've got any chances at all...IS TO MAKE AN EFFORT TO CONTACT HIM!
Pianoguy