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| Tue, 10-11-2005 - 6:51am |
Okay...I'd been dating this guy for 4 months and he recently broke it off with me saying "it was going too well" and he needed to sort some stuff out. I had (still have) really strong feelings for him and even though we'd only been together for a short time I thought he was "the one". He maintains it is just the wrong timing and keeps saying that he needs to settle down with work, his daughter and buying a place.
Now the confusing thing is he keeps contacting me. He keeps sending emails that are familiar (he uses nicknames, signs off with kisses and says he's thinking about me and to take care).
I want him to come back to me and I think he might when/if he gets his career sorted and finds a place to live but I don't want to build myself up if there is no hope for this.
He's just sending really mixed messages and I don't know what to think or feel. Help! Will he want me back? Why do guys do this?

I have some experience with this. You say:
"I'd been dating this guy for 4 months and he recently broke it off with me saying "it was going too well" and he needed to sort some stuff out. "
Um, people often don't break things off if it is "going too well". My guess is that he likes you but doesn't want to be in a relationship. But he likes the fact that you like him, or are willing to talking to him, be friendly or verbally intimate and he doesn't want to lose that, hence the emails.
I kind of like the way you say "when/if he gets his career sorted". I guess you may know in your heart he isn't that motivated.