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| Tue, 09-20-2005 - 9:55am |
Hi: I am looking for a little insight and direction. In August I was recently introduced to a good friend of one of my close family members. He is divorced, with two kids, and I am separated one year with two kids. We are close in age and I found him attractive first time I met him. Since then, he has been to a number of family type barbeques and on four or five occasions we have sat, drinking coffee, until two or so in the morning, just talking. It is like he waits for everyone else to leave so we can chat. He has actually become quite involved with the family and is helping out in a variety of different projects. He has been in a 12 step program for five years and seems to be quite healthy. In our chats I have learned a lot about him and vice versa. In our first discussion, he did say that he traditionally had bad radar with women and felt it more important now to become friends first. My question is, am I just becoming a good buddy, or is there something happening here and, if so, why has he not just asked me out. I did invite him to one our BBQs but it could have been construed as another family gathering. Last time he commented on how much he enjoyed our chats and how easy I was to talk to. He then left and said take care! Thoughts anyone!!!

lilwagss...
Pianoguy has a question. "Does a good friendship have to automatically develop into something more serious?"
This man has indicated his reservations about women with you, but STILL LIKES YOU (as a friend)! Can't you accept this....at least for now?
There are individuals who enter our lives strictly for friendship purposes...with NO ULTERIOR MOTIVES. I honestly think the man you've connected with falls into that category.
Pianoguy
"I am separated one year with two kids."
Why not just enjoy the friendship? It seems to me that you have a lot of things to take care of, including settling your marital status and raising two kids. That's enough on your plate already. Why do you feel you are available to consider dating?