Confused

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Registered: 01-24-2004
Confused
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Tue, 10-12-2004 - 2:16am
I have been with my boyfriend for 8 years now and we have 2 children together. We have been living together for 3 years but he has another girlfriend. She doesn't live here. It's kind of complicated to explain the situation because it's going on since way back. But now i've reached to a point where I can't take it anymore. He is always busy so he never has any time for me. We don't really have that much alone time. We don't hardly do anything as a couple anymore. And i'm just not feeling sex anymore with him. I am still in love with him and I want things to work out but I don't know what to do. He says he has to be involved with that other woman still because she has his child (before me)but I don't know what to do. I want things to be the way the used to be when we were happy together but I don't know the first place to start.


Edited 10/12/2004 12:12 pm ET ET by deyauna
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: deyauna
Tue, 10-12-2004 - 7:19am
deyauna...

Let me see if I have this correct...8 years and 2 children with this man...he's got a g/f and a child by her...and you STILL want to be with him?

Pianoguy has read some incredible posts on this board, but yours is definitely among THE TOP 10!

How in the world can you even consider ANYTHING with this jerk...when it's clear that his feelings are spread out between you and at least one other woman? Actually, it wouldn't surprise me if the man has been 'diddling around' with a few other females too! What astounds me is how you've let this go on as long as you have? Perhaps you were hoping "the marriage fairy" would eventually show up?

Things are NOT going to be the way they used to be...so you can forget that fantasy right now! You've got an obligation to your children and yourself...and my best advice is to start making plans to get free legal aid, social support and make that creep you've been living with for the past 8 years pay A HUGE AMOUNT OF CHILD SUPPORT!

He might be 'great in the sack'---and perhaps he spends a little time with you and the children---but it's clear that his priorities are elsewhere. So stop acting foolish and do something to improve your situation....TODAY!

Pianoguy