Confused

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Registered: 06-14-2004
Confused
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Mon, 06-14-2004 - 6:10pm
Hi I really need some advice because Im very confused and don't understand whats wrong with me. I'm always very fussy with men and end up turning down men who are perfectly good just because I'm not attracted to them. Whenever I do meet a man I like its usually because I know I cant have him for some reason but then as soon as things start to get serious between us I get scared and stop liking him. I dont know why I act like this but i know its not anything to do with getting hurt in past relationships because Ive never had a serious relationship because Ive always been like this. Can someone please help me understand what is wrong with me and why I get scared or stop liking him?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: steph377
Mon, 06-14-2004 - 8:13pm
steph...

Pianoguy gets the impression that YOUR EXPECTATIONS ARE SO GREAT...Mr. Perfect will never show up at your doorstep. So...'any lesser man' that shows an interest in you will eventually be CANCELLED OUT!

Don't know if professional counselling will help you with "an attitude readjustment?" But as long as you expect 100% perfection in any of us...you're probably going to be spending several more nights alone...or...with your girlfriends!

Pianoguy

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Registered: 05-26-2004
In reply to: steph377
Wed, 06-16-2004 - 2:39pm
Are you a perfectionist?
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