confused

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Registered: 04-13-2004
confused
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Tue, 04-13-2004 - 8:37pm
im 20 and i was seeing this guy 7 years older then me. Freshly into the relationship, he made it clear that he's not looking for a girlfriend and he just wants to keep things casual and see what happens. So we continued to see each other and now he officially stated that its not going to work and he doesnt want a relationship, he wants to date around. And that the age thing is an issue. But at the beginning it seemed like we had more then just being sex buddies. So now he doesnt want to date but to sleep together every so often, until one of us meets someone else. im confused because i have feelings for this guy and dont want to loose him, at the same time i dont know if i should continue with someone who is only interested in sex and not me.
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Registered: 04-01-2003
Tue, 04-13-2004 - 8:50pm
You cannot "lose" what you do not "have" and you dont "have" him. You have to give him credit...he was upfront and honest right out of the gate. He didnt want a relationship, he was only looking for a physical connection. It is what you two "are" and by the looks of it, all you will "be" with him.
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Registered: 03-13-2004
Tue, 04-13-2004 - 10:17pm
If you don't miss and need sex with him, look for a real man outside. Don't let him use you for sex. If you enjoy and don't care if he leaves you, you can continue. But make sure that it won't hurt you when he leaves. I am sure if you loves him, it will hurt you hard....and it's up to you.

Why do you want to be with a guy who does not want to be your boyfriend? and a serious relationship when you're ready?