Confused and don't know what to do....

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Registered: 05-22-2006
Confused and don't know what to do....
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Sun, 04-15-2007 - 10:24pm
Hello there!
Well here is the situation...my friend set me up with her brother a couple months ago. We went to a wedding together and got along great. We started hanging out and have gone out on a couple dates since. I always felt deep down inside, though, that he wasn't someone who i would be in a long term realtionship with because he is quite immature. He went on a vacation this past week and texted me a couple times in the beginning, but nothing after that...no call, no texts nothing. I ended up going out this weekend and met the most amazing man. I just had this connection and we ended up going out on a date and really clicked. I didn't do anything wrong because me and my friends brother were never classified as boyfriend/girlfriend, so it is not a cheating situation at all. Problem: I really like this other guy...what do i say to my friends brother without hurting his feelings and my friends feelings? We both hang with the same groups of people and he is supposed to be moving next door to me (not because of me, but just by chance) in about a month...I dont want to lead him on because then that would be wrong, so how do i say "i'm just not into you?" I need my friends, but am concerned that they will be upset with me. HELP!!!!
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Registered: 11-21-2003
Sun, 04-15-2007 - 10:44pm
I'd mention to your friend that you met a guy who is really interesting and that you're going out. Since you and the friend's brother don't have anything seious, it's OK for you and him to date other people. If he moves next door to you then you won't have to "hang out" if you don't want to.
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Registered: 11-30-2006
Mon, 04-16-2007 - 10:29am
You could say that you met someone with whom you would like to start a relationship and you wouldn't feel right about dating two guys at once, especially since he is your friend's brother. Saying, "you are really nice and I like you, but..." is very cliche and patronizing, so I understand your concerns.