confused and sad

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Registered: 08-24-2004
confused and sad
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Mon, 08-30-2004 - 3:07pm
I was dating this guy for 2months. We just broke up this past week because we never had sex, he wanted it I did too but depression got in the way fo my having it. Well he has moved on and the reason he told me was because we were totally different. We are still friends and do talk. All along he was telling me once we made love he would give me the world. I was perfect for him except for the sex. Oh we did other things all the time and he seemed to enjoy it. He told me he met somebody else went on one date and is really happy now. We never did anything in our relationship just stayed at his house. I was upset and he blamed it on mesaying I never wanted to do anything.Which isn't true we just got our wires crossed on that issue. Well today I met someone who I met online a while ago. All the time I kept thinking of the other guy and was very upset when this man left. Missing the other man. Ok here is my question, I really miss this other man and want him back. Yes I am ready to sleep with him now. How can I go about getting him to see this when I told him before I wanted to sleep with him and never did? I don't want to feel like this anymore. I miss him so much.
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Registered: 08-27-2004
Mon, 08-30-2004 - 3:28pm
MAke sure that you really want to sleep with this guy, and that you;re not just upset about losing him because you wouldn't do it. If he really cared about you he woudl nto have left you because ou didn't have sex. But where men are concerned especially very young ones sex is everything. It's us women that know the value of ther things liek caring, sharing and togetherness. You sound like you might be very young. Good luck to you. Trust your heart.
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Registered: 08-26-2004
Mon, 08-30-2004 - 3:36pm
Hi hun. It sounds like this guy never wanted you and the good things that came with you. It sounds like he was hung up on the sex. You may think that it was your fault that he left you because you didn't give in when he wanted you but the truth is he should have waited with you until you were 100% ready for it. You stood up for yourself and what you believed was right and there was no reason why if he wanted to be with you he couldn't have just waited a little longer. I think you need to move on from the idea of him because maybe that is all it is, an idea. You have this view of him but I think anyone who reads your story will see that he was wrong and needs to stay out of your life. You deserve better. Best of luck and never change your beliefs.