Confused in Cali
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| Wed, 11-23-2005 - 8:19am |
Here's the deal...
Me: 20, work in television, full time student, in California
Him: 33, COO of family business, in New York
How We Met:
A few years apart, we'd both moved from our home state (he: NY; me: CA) to go to the same school and wound up working for the same company. Well, we hit it off and started going out. We always had a great time and really got along great.
Where It Gets Hinky:
Late October '04, we had a great date. The next morning, I was in a major car accident. He figured out how to reach me when I was in the ER, which meant a lot. After three more phone calls...nothing. He never called and didn't answer my attempts to get a hold of him. I figured he had moved back to NY to work for the family business (which was the case). I moved to back to CA to work in television earlier this year.
Early November:
I get an email from him at my new work address. No one was more shocked than me. It was a very civilized, "hey, it's been a long time" message - a year and a week to the day since we had last spoken.
Now:
I'm very clear about how I feel about the whole "he disappeared" situation...I'm not angry, just disappointed. The spot we were in before, it wasn't quite boyfriend/girlfriend, but it wasn't too far from. Last week, he made it very clear that he did and still does have romantic feelings for me.
Dilemma:
Between the not calling and the fact that he's now in NY and I'm in CA, I'm not sure if too much is in the way, even if he might be the one. What do you think?
Edited 11/24/2005 6:26 pm ET by mollyjorosen

hi mollyjorosen..
Normally, Pianoguy wouldn't respond to such a lengthy post.
But since you and I share a profession (COMMUNICATIONS) that make us happy most of the time...I'm gonna break my own rule!
Personally...I don't think the accident you experienced is the problem. It's the current amount of DISTANCE BETWEEN YOU! You're on one coast/he's on the other! . So the likelihood of anything permanent ISN'T SOLID! This doesn't mean the 'sparks' can't rekindle whenever the two of you can get together?
Something to kick around is the fact that a man and a woman can have tons of things in common, but these 'commonalities' don't necessarily mean they'll be joined at the hip for eternity! A GREAT FRIENDSHIP is often a lot better than a so-so RELATIONSHIP!
Here's hoping you both can work an amicable arrangement together?
Pianoguy (who, by the way, ALSO does voiceover work in case your TV station is one announcer short!).