Confused on DATING... HELP!!!
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Confused on DATING... HELP!!!
| Wed, 03-03-2004 - 12:05am |
Hi,
I really wanna know what is "the meaning" of dating to most american guy.
I've been dating a guy (american guy) and had sex with him. I really like him.. and i know he also like me..
We go out frequently and also had sex. We share our feelin and let us know that we care and smitten to each other.
From my point of view... if i dating a guy just like i do with him it means I shouldn't go out with other guy but him.....
But i rather confused is american guy also has the same thought as i do...
I really wanna know what is "the meaning" of dating to most american guy.
I've been dating a guy (american guy) and had sex with him. I really like him.. and i know he also like me..
We go out frequently and also had sex. We share our feelin and let us know that we care and smitten to each other.
From my point of view... if i dating a guy just like i do with him it means I shouldn't go out with other guy but him.....
But i rather confused is american guy also has the same thought as i do...
SO WHADDAYA THINK?????

don't keep having sex with him until you get this cleared. for a while, maybe it's ok, but not continually.
because if you set it straight and both agree that you are exlusive, you know what to expect. after all, sloppy seconds is gross, and no girl wants that just because of some guy who made the "wrong" assumption.
if that is what you want, then tell him. don't ask him, tell him.
and if he feels pressured and he isn't totally cool and eager about this idea of exclusivity, tell him you want to be just "friends". got it? once it's clear to both of you, it'll be easier.
Males and females have different ideas about when is the right time to sleep together. I read a scientific study once that claimed the average male is comfortable with the idea of sleeping with a female after knowing her for a week. Whereas the average female is comfortable only after 6 months!
So sex can obviously mean different things to males and females. Generally, a male would be quite happy to sleep around with several women. There are ways to motivate guys to be monogamous and hang around, however. The best is to wait to have sex until he is emotionally attached.
This is something a lot of women have forgotten. I think one writer called it "unilateral disarmament".
To get back to your question, you need to talk with him about this. If he's not willing to be exclusive, you might consider whether you want to keep seeing him.
On the other hand, he may already consider himself exclusive and committed. Or he may not, and have no intention of becoming so. You need to find out.
Gosh!!! i'm sooooooooow HAPPY...
He is so nice... he looks so cute (he still sleepin now...awww.. I love him soooo much)
Thanks for the words Friends......
love,
hopefooly