Confused, Do I try again?
My girlfriend of two years told me in Dec. that she needed some “space.” I kind of went into a panic mode because I knew I had been really mean to her. So I kept calling her several times a day. Then she finally said she wanted to break up for good.
On one hand I was always there for her while she was putting herself through school and working full time. I would go to her house and mow her lawn and do things for her. Most of the time she never even thanked me. I started to grow resentful. So, I would find fault in everything she did and became verbally abusive. After she said she needed space I tried to be nicer and I told her how much I loved her. I would call her at work just to hear her voice. About six weeks after she broke up with me she called me regarding a plumbing problem. When I was there I told her we could have had everything together. I was crying and I hugged her and she barely hugged me back. She just said she was sorry. Yes, it’s hard to admit because I’m a guy but I cried!
Finally, I started to date someone else. I put my ex behind me and moved on. As soon as I did, now she wants me back. She told me the stress of her mother dying and going through school was overwhelming and that when I became verbally abusive it was the straw that broke the camel’s back. She said she still loves me more than ever and did not realize how much until she lost me for good. She is getting counseling to work on her issues and she invited me to join. I’m dating a girl from work and we have a lot of fun together, but she is a girl that has dated a few other of my coworkers in the past and this bothers me a little. She even dated a married man and had a lesbian relationship at one time. Should I give the new girl a chance or try counseling with my ex? I still love my ex but I do not trust that she will not run away again. I’m so scared we will get in the rut we got into before and the bickering will start all over. She told me she was so distraught she did not know what else to do but take a time out. Is it wrong of me to continue to see the other girl while going to counseling with my ex, at least until I decide what I want? I am so torn between the two I just do not know what to do.
Thank you for your thoughts. . . .