confused by his behavior at times
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| Mon, 07-10-2006 - 9:48am |
I have been seeing a guy for about 2 weeks now. The 2nd week of knowing each other we spent 3 days in a row together, it was fun. Then he went away for 2 days, we went out a few days after that. Last time i saw him was friday. In person we seem to get along great. It's not awkward or anything, he tells me things like, i really like you, he makes references to us hanging out again. On the phone he acts different for the most part and says he's not a phone person. I guess that confuses me because one of our first conversations was awesome and lasted an hour...he said he has to be in the mood. So like i said, we went out friday, when i left he said, call me. Ball in my court...i didnt know when to call...i ended up texting him on sat night when i got in from being out with friends. Just said, hi, are you still up, he wrote back that he was and i could call if i wanted. so i did. We talked for about 10 min. I mentioned that i was going to watch the world cup somewhere, he said that sounded fun so i invited him, he said again that sounds fun, call me in the morning. So i did...he called back said he was doing errands and that a friend told him the city was crazy due to the game. He said he'd call me later. I missed his call but his voicemail said he wasnt coming, but call him to let him know. I admit i felt bummed that he decided not to come. I called him back last night, conversation was ok...i mentioned that he is very quiet on the phone, he said i know, i hate it, i wish i could talk on the phone but i'm just not good at it. He said he's more direct on the phoen and for the most part uses it to make plans, etc
He did ask me on friday night what i thought we 'were.' After 2 weeks i dont think we are anything other than dating, but i do like him. The question made me kind of nervous so i changed the subject and didnt ask him. He has to know that i like him though...i'm nervous because i dont want to be too available...does this seem normal? I dont know how often people who have known each other for 2 weeks should be going out...i guess i am thrown off since we spent 3 days in a row together...but this past weekend i only saw him one day...what do you think?

I don't think you really have to worry at this stage. 2 weeks is very early. Maybe the 3 days in a row thing freaked him out (hey, I am female & that would freak me out with a new relationship - unless I knew him for a long time beforehand. Not sure from your post on that..
You know he may not have come to watch the game b/c meeting your friends so early on could seem like a serious this is my boyfriend kind of step and he thought it best not to go there yet (although he could have told you that)
You didn't say how you answered his question about what you thought the 2 of you were. How did you respond? Your comments about only dating at this stage, but that you like him would have been a good and appropriate response. Maybe adding something about wanting to see where it leads. I personally wouldn't have seen anything wrong with throwing the question back in his court for a feel on where he stands.