Confused by his Vibe

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Registered: 10-29-2004
Confused by his Vibe
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Fri, 10-29-2004 - 10:32pm
I have been friends with Joe for almost 8 years. Underlying our friendship has always been a sexual tension. We both live on different ends of the country. Two years ago he and I ended up in the same area for four months and things were great. Last summer again he and I were again in the same area and things were ok, but he confessed that he had a gambling problem and that although he had very strong feelings for me, he just wasn't at a time in his life that he could start a relationship. He and I have kept in touch, though recently he seems to be withdrawing, and I am now faced with the oportunity to go to school where he lives. It will have been a year since he sought treatment for his gamblining. My question is, is it stupid for me to move to the same city with him to see if we have what it takes?
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-10-2003
Sat, 10-30-2004 - 1:48pm
It'll be stupid to move there for him and solely for this reason. However, if you move to go to school there the situation would change. You will be busy with school and will get to see your friend. However, your post seem to point to the direction of "wanting to pursue" him. Have you mention to him the possibility of moving there for school? If you have perhaps this is the reason he's being distant. His excuse of having a gambling issue and not being ready for a relationship don't add up. Maybe he's not that interested in you as you think. It seems that you've wasted some time in this guy now. What makes you think he's changed? Anyhow, I'd move and go to school there and if something comes to light with this guy then I'd take the chance.
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Registered: 10-27-2004
Sat, 10-30-2004 - 10:51pm
I'd just be happy you got a chance to meet and even HAVE a relationship be greatful for that geez.Im usually the last to find out about anything but i am use to it you are lucky you must be hot.