confused in more way than one
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confused in more way than one
| Sun, 12-10-2006 - 5:08pm |
So my best friend is a guy ( we'll name him Charlie) and for a while he was in love with me. I'm not interested in having a relationship with him in that way and he has accepted that. Our friendship was a little bit rocky for a while because of the awkwardness that came along with Charlie liking me as more than and friend and me not returning those feelings. I have a crush on his roommate and best guy friend though (We'll call him Steve). I sleep with the guys are a regular basis (and by sleep I mean share a bed and this is not uncommon in their house). For a while my best friend was hooking up with a girl so I was "forced" to sleep with his roommate, Steve. One night Steve and I started hooking up but we both sort of stopped because we figured we weren't being very good friends towards Charlie. The next weekend, Steve and I hooked up again. This time a girl he had been seeing for a while was over and he sent her home to come to bed with me. Steve has something against dating ( which is a whole nother store) but he doesn't qualify as a sleazy man-whore and if you saw the way he treats his mother and little sister you'd melt. I've been exremely intoxicated in his presence and he could have very easily taken advantage of me but hasn't. Last weekend was his birthday and after going out to the bar and everything (I didn't go to the bar) he came back to his house to find me there handling a black-out drunk, Charlie. We put Charlie to bed and Steve and I proceeded to hook up. This time a little bit more than before. We didn't have sex though, and he is a virgin. The dillema, Charlie doesn't know Steve and I have been hooking up... do we tell him? Or do we keep quiet until he finds out? Steve gives me extremely mixed messages. Mostly because whenever Charlie is around we have to play it cool. As soon as Charlie leaves the room though, Steve flirts with me so much. In addition to the last question, any pointers for getting under the skin of a man who is scared to date and who may or may not like me the same way I like him? Because he is still playing the field and I'm not sure if it is because he feels he and I can't date due to our best friend status, he doesn't really like me, or if it is all a cover for Charlie.
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| Sun, 12-10-2006 - 8:16pm |
You're playing with fire. Friendship between men will always be stronger than the interest for a woman. In this case, Steve is Charlie's roommate and friend so who do you think is going out the window if every thing comes to light, if you and Steve tell Charlie that you're both hooking up? They'll both dump your sorry behind. The fact that you hook up with Steve makes it so easy for him not to want to "date you". He's already taking what he wants from you; friendship and sex. In your place, I'd stop sleeping with both of them. By stopping I mean sharing their bed and hooking up. That way, Steve may ask you out on a date. Doubtful but possible.
