Confused!!! Need Advice!!

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Registered: 09-20-2004
Confused!!! Need Advice!!
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Mon, 09-20-2004 - 4:22pm



Edited 9/20/2004 5:27 pm ET ET by bkgrl1


Edited 9/21/2004 7:44 pm ET ET by bkgrl1

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Registered: 09-19-2004
Mon, 09-20-2004 - 5:50pm
You are NOT ready to get married. To anyone. And you are NOT being very fair to your poor fiance. You first say you can't understand why he moved without talking about it with you, then when you find out his reasoning, you're upset because he hadn't moved past your former deceit...and in the next breath, you confess you are back cheating on him on a regular basis?? No wonder your guy friend is questioning you. I don't mean to sound rude here, but what exactly are you conflicted about in this situation? You should be truthful, break it off with him and leave that poor guy alone. (Unless he is equally as sneaky at screwing around behind your back, in which case I would say you two deserved each other.) But how can you marry someone you obviously don't love/respect? This guy deserves a faithful girlfriend, a faithful fiance, and a faithful wife. Be a better person than you have proven to be to him so far and end the relationship now, or that march down the isle is sure to turn into a march down the hallway to visit the divorce attorney. (On his part, anyway.)

Elle

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 09-20-2004 - 7:23pm
Oh, my goodness, break up with the poor man already!!!

He deserves someone who is sure she wants to marry him and who is capable of fidelity and monogamy.

Staying with him would be much crueler than breaking up with him.

Sheri