Confused, need help

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-24-2004
Confused, need help
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Fri, 10-08-2004 - 4:12pm
Yesterday I wrote on here about my relationship. Today I need more answers. I will try to make this brief. Summerizing here met this guy online in a dating website, he moved back here after 10 yrs. My mother knows his family and has worked with him and likes him a lot. He and I hit it off from the start have the same views on a lot of different issues, a lot in common. We talk all the time on the comp at least we used to. We only live about 3 min away from each other. My problem is that we have different schedules he works 10pm-7am. So he sleeps most of the day. We don't chat ever dya on the comp. and he has never called me. That really bothers me. Also we have been dating for about 1 month but have only been together twice and that was about an hour both times. He says he is not looking for anyone else and that he thiks this is "it" for him. If he truly believes that why doesn't he chat/call me every day and also why does he get off the comp a lot without telling me he is leaving? Also he sometimes writes he will be right back when we are chatting and never comes back on. Very confused and need help!
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-13-2003
Fri, 10-08-2004 - 4:28pm
If you want an honest opinion, I wouldn't even call this a "relationship." You have a chat buddy online. This is not a boyfriend. No matter how much you feel you know one another through all this computer interaction, you simply cannot get to know someone as the real person they are any way other than face to face interaction and time spent together in their presence. No matter what he says (or types)....a person who really wants to have a relationship with you will do more than chat online or email you. Believe me on this one. Stop counting on this to be anything other than what it is and keep looking. This is not the man for you if he is happy as things are and you are not. Good luck.