Confused- Needing YOUR opinion!!!

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Registered: 03-21-2004
Confused- Needing YOUR opinion!!!
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Mon, 03-22-2004 - 7:07pm
Hello Everyone,

I will tell you a true story. It's about a 23 year old woman who met her first love 2 months ago. He gave her his number where they both work and she called him. As she got to know him better she found out that he has 3 kids from a previous marriage and alot of baggage. She was willing to deal with anything because she was so madly in love with him. They went out on a few dates. He gave her roses, a silver ring and many stuffed animals. They were in love. Then he didn't call her when he said he would and for 3 weekends in a row had no time for her at all. She thought she would have a life with this man, since they seemed really made for each other. Naive girl, I know. He still seemed like he was paying attention to her just enough to keep her with him. She loved him and didn't want to leave but wasn't happy. When he called her she said they needed to talk and she said her concerns. His reply was to suggest the two breaking up. Her heart was broken. Does he want to dump her? He still called and bought her things but had many excuses why he can't spend time with her. She is now halfway out the door but needs a good explanation from him first. He is also very secretive- very reluctant to let her see his apartment, she never has. Yes, the thought of him cheating has crossed her mind but intuition says he's not. Please Help! Any advice appreciated! Thanks! Sorry it's so long!

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Registered: 03-21-2004
Wed, 03-24-2004 - 6:32pm
xdopeyx,

Thank you so much for your message! It sounds just like what I'm going through. I do miss him all the time and it definately sucks to be last on his list. I finally talked to him today and laid it all out on the line. I told him if he doesn't make time I'm gone. He said that this sunday he would FINALLY show me his apartment and take me to dinner in his neighborhood. I really gave it to him in a full page note, basically saying how much he hurt me and how much he'll have to fit me into his life if he really wants me in it. He apologized and said he didn't want to lose me. I replied with "stop screwing up then!" Well, I'm giving him one more chance... I know some people reading this will say I'm a fool to trust him again, but I'm being smart this time. I'm not gonna stay if he blows it again. I can't go through life wondering what would've happened if I didn't let him redeem himself. Let's keep in touch. I feel like you understand this like no one else does.Tell me more about your situation please. Sharox1 xoxoxoxoxo
~The past is history and the future is a mystery~

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