Confused - Scared? No feeling? or What?

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-19-2004
Confused - Scared? No feeling? or What?
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Sun, 08-22-2004 - 8:28pm
Hi, everyone

I am seeing the guy (called him as B) that I knew online. He is nice person. I can tell that he likes me as well. We met lunch on last Monday. He texted me straight after the meeting & rang the nite to arrange the next meeting on last Friday. The dinner on last Friday was nice & he got me a little gift & a flower. Everthing seems fine. But, when he tried to hold me, I moved away. Anyway, I didn't feel comfortable with the physical close yet, but I am still interested in knowing him more. I called him after he sent me home on Friday nite coz I didn't want him to think I am not interested. Anyway, it worked out ok & we met again on Saturday. He rang me on Sunday nite again. He arranged the lunch together on Tuesday.

Here is the question. I went out with another guy (called him as A) about 2.5 monthes ago. A broke up me after we went out about 1.5 month coz he couldn't get over his ex girl friend. I really liked A. I was really heartbroken. I don't know it is coz I didn't get over A or what, I always compare A & B. I always tried to look for the feelings with A from B. But, I know I can't find the same feelings from the different person. I dont' know it is coz I am not ready or what? I really don't want to lose B though. I think I need time. (B said he doesn't mind taking things slow) At the moment, I dont' think I get the FEELING with B yet. So, is it coz he is not the right one for me or do I just need give him more time? I remembered that A hold me on the 4th date & kissed me on the 5th date. I felt comfortable with it. Why didn't I feel comfortable with B?

Sorry for the long details. Thanks for any input.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-23-2003
Mon, 08-23-2004 - 1:31pm

Only YOU know how you feel.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 07-19-2004
Mon, 08-23-2004 - 8:01pm
Thanks Jilly. I think you are right that I am the only one who knows how I feel. We had several good talks over the phone in last couple of days. Those good I will give another try & will go out with him again to see if I am attracted to him or not. Maybe it is still too early - we only went out 3 times. Will keep u updated.

Thanks