Confused - sleep over question, help!
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Confused - sleep over question, help!
| Wed, 09-15-2004 - 2:41pm |
I have been divorced for a year after 20 years. I have been dating a man for approx 8 months and we are serious about each other. My kids live with their dad most of the time and are with me everyother weekend and current with me due to health problems on his side. My question is this: My boyfriend wants to sleep over while I have my kids and we are talking about moving in together. My kids aren't crazy about this guy but they are 17 and 14 and not nieve about things either. Please give me some advise. We each have our own homes and share equal time at each when the kids are with their father. It's been hard not being together since I've had my kids. We're not young, we're both 50 so waiting much longer is not an option. HELP PLEASE

HTH
I think though, that you should introduce the new arrangement slowly. Once a week for now and ease into it. It's new for them to live with you full time, so make sure that you all have time to adjust.
After you have sat them down and let them know he may stay over, I think it's then important that you all sit down together and go over some guidelines. How do you want him to treat them, and vice versa. Hopefully things will all go smoothly for you.
Alison
What I don't get is why you would push someone your kids don't like on your children.