Confusing behaviour

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Registered: 02-04-2004
Confusing behaviour
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Fri, 05-28-2004 - 7:48am
I had a brief thing with this guy, really liked each other for months before it began, in fact I though he liked me more so I was quite secure with it. Then nothing, no phonecall, he basically did a runner which was a bit stupid considering we know the same people and work int he same very small industry and I'm the one who hires him etc. So our first meeting was bound to be awkward and embarrassing, for him since he was the one who behaved immaturely. Then I bumped into him in a bar recently and he eventually after skulking around me, plucked up the courage to come over, he was extremely nervous and babbling. We couldn't clear the air then as there was alot of people around.

I just went out to grab a coffee and just bumped into his friend (who I know very well) and him. His friend did all the talking he just stood there looking shocked and like he was about to throw up with nerves. He was in ribbons, is he terrified of me, does he have feelings for me. I've met friends of his who said that he was mad about me and coudn't stop talking about me. Anyway I don't think he managed to say one thing to me just now I just kept looking at him while chatting to his friend thinking he's mental!

Why do women get the tag of Bunny Boilers, men are mental!!! BTW he's 33 not 15 I didn't realise I'm that intimidating, I presume he knows he will get an earful when I meet him in the righ cirumstances but jeez...

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Registered: 05-28-2004
Mon, 05-31-2004 - 11:29am
I really don't get it why HE should be the one initiating .... he could have had some more help ....

Women are all about equality and fairness in between the sexes, but when it comes to dating and relationships the male has to do all the pushing ..... sheeeesh - nice convenient double standard .....

"Hate the way I have to be the bigger person and initiate it when it should come from him as I did nothing wrong!"

But you already are the bigger person in more ways that you realize !!!!!

BB

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Registered: 02-04-2004
Mon, 05-31-2004 - 11:53am
No I don't have double standards, I have no problem with doing a bit of the chasing etc, I initiated us getting together in the first place and he ran with it! But I've done nothing wrong, except like him, spend time with him, he's the one who treated me with disrespect, I don't think he did it on purpose, he's not a bad person just a coward. he even borrowed a couple of items from me when I last saw him, I'd have thought he'd at least try to return them( to show he has manners not because I care really if I get them back) So even though I don't think he'll have the guts to initate contact and clear the air, I feel I have to because I can't meet him again in the same state, its embarassing, awkward and I do feel sorry for him regardless of his past behaviour. Plus the way things are I don't think I can hire him for work with everything hanging in the air and thats not fair on him, we tried something, it didn't work he shouldn't lose work over it, I don't want to be petty!
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Registered: 07-24-2003
Mon, 05-31-2004 - 12:28pm
"Plus the way things are I don't think I can hire him for work with everything hanging in the air and thats not fair on him, we tried something, it didn't work he shouldn't lose work over it, I don't want to be petty!"

 

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