confusing situation with Asian guy

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Registered: 05-01-2013
confusing situation with Asian guy
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Tue, 12-03-2013 - 10:34am

Me and the asian guy have stopped seeing each other and now not speaking. My hair was one of his great issues. He felt I should go natural and have an afro, which I told him that will never happen.

He cancelled 4 of our dates, total of his cancelled dates 5. And he stopped texting me and messaging me on facebook, I would have to make the effort to contact him. I cancelled one date cause I got into a car accident. My last attempt was on his bday weekend to make reservation for a restaurant, it was all set. He cancelled the day before said he wanted to do it sunday early afternoon because he had a date late night. So, he was double booking himself :/

I told him the reservation for this certain restaurant which was a suprise had to be made days to weeks in advance. Also, I wanted to have it set for late night for the view of the city is amazing at night. He said he felt like an a--hole like he was a horrible person and said he would make it up to me, I told him this is number 5. We live 20 mins from each other, also. He posted on facebook after our agrument "another one gone, why is it hard to meet girls", "I'll be single forever". Other girls on his FB agreed it may not always be us girls thats the problem. 

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Registered: 05-01-2013
Tue, 12-03-2013 - 10:46am
actually he cancelled 6 times, he texted my actual cell after the bday incident to ask me to meet him at a restaurant in 2 hrs, then cancelled with 20 mins before we met. he said his mom had the flu......since then we have not talked!!
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Registered: 05-01-2013
Tue, 12-03-2013 - 10:47am
actually he cancelled 6 times, he texted my actual cell after the bday incident to ask me to meet him at a restaurant in 2 hrs, then cancelled with 20 mins before we met. he said his mom had the flu......since then we have not talked!!
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Registered: 05-01-2013
Tue, 12-03-2013 - 10:47am

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Tue, 12-03-2013 - 1:34pm

Well you are probably lucky to be rid of him.  Canceling a date because of a car accident is legit--I can't believe that he actually told you he wanted to change the time of the date because he had another date!  I'd tell him that he should go and be happy with that other girl then.  I wouldn't put up with more than one canceled date--the first time, I'd give the guy another chance, but not after 2 times.  My time is valuable (and so is everyone else's--I don't mean just me).

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Wed, 12-04-2013 - 8:53pm

 As soon as a person want to change you that is a major issue.

Goldfish

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Registered: 12-26-2013
Fri, 12-27-2013 - 3:10am

Anyone who cancels more than twice and isn't attempting to rebook while letting it be known that he has another date is 1. not the right guy for you because he's not intrested enough, or 2. not emotionally ready to date anyone. In either case if you are ready to be in a relationship then it's better this way. Best of luck.