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| Mon, 02-13-2006 - 12:01pm |
I have just split up with my ex for the upteemth time. Apparantely it was all my fault. Why is he blaming me for the break up of the relationship?
| Mon, 02-13-2006 - 12:01pm |
Without knowing the situation, it's impossible to say. But chances are, it's easier to blame you than to take even shared responsibility himself. If you keep breaking up, it's obviously not working. Greg Behrendt who wrote the book "He's Just Not That Into You" also wrote a book called "It's Called a Breakup Because it's Broken" basically stating things like how if it didn't work the first time and you got back together and you broke up again and again and again, OBVIOUSLY there is something wrong in the relationship and it's NOT gonna work! :-)
Who cares why he's blaming you? Get out of this toxic relationship and move on with your life. Don't see him, don't talk to him, don't fight with him - just move on!
juedrops...
It's only Pianoguy's 2 cents....but here goes:
The reasons most couples return to each other over and over again are.
a. They're incredibly lonely and need the security of having somebody (good or bad) around at all times!
b. Their self-esteem has reached an all-time low! Simply because they've been torn down by the same person so many times!
c. They're nervous about taking a chance on somebody new....whether or not that 'new person' is "a better fit" for them?
d. ALL OF THE ABOVE!
People who try to make a relationship work and are STILL BLAMED FOR THE BREAK-UP are either willing to 'take this sort of treatment' or haven't got enough courage to walk away!
Pianoguy