Consistent Contact???
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| Mon, 04-03-2006 - 11:44am |
I need help in understanding why a man would say he'll call and come by, but I haven't seen him now in a month**
Here's my story:
In January' 2005 when we met, everything was great; he called, I called and we always saw each other every weekend. Well that went on for quite some time! Everything was good. In the month of April towards the end, I asked him where did we stand and he told me that " we were more than friends BUT not exclusive yet".....so I took that for what it was and left my dating options open, because he has now told me that we have an open dating situation. Well, I guess he realized what he said and how stupid it was after we've done everything under the sun together as a couple, and he came back about 2 weeks later and told me that " he loved me".....I didn't acknowledge that one way or the other and he got pissed. I went on dates with others and he found out about it and that's what started this battle. From that point, things were just OK up until July, and that's when things started going downhill. He told me that I wasn't listening to him and he expressed his feelings to me and I blew him off; well, I went to him asking about "us" and he tells me something crazy so why now do you say you love me...he could have said that then...At any rate, the calls became less and less and I wouldn't see him for weeks on end.
He has NEVER came out to say that he wanted this to be over and done with, and I think now he's testing my patience to see how much can I endure, because when he recently came to see me, it had been 2 and a half months, but he was trying to make phone contact periodically. When we finally saw each other again, it was beautiful...he couldn't keep his hands off me and that's when he told me that he would definitely be seeing me again and we would do dinner and the whole nine; this was just this last visit recently in February 2006. Previously, when I would call him, I would ask about the weekend and time for us, but he'd always have something to do....( I think he was lying just to make me feel bad).....He told me in December 2005 that " I'm always talking about being in love and relationships and that there's more to life than love; he said that we never talked anymore about our day or our families or anything and that bothered him a great deal." So his words to me after he said this was that " He's taking things very SLOW with us and proceeding with caution".......
All I want is consistent contact and I have no idea how to go about approaching him with this*
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