Contact him after two months?
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|Wed, 07-31-2013 - 8:45pm|
On a whim seven months ago I signed up for a free dating site. I met one man that became sort of a platonic best friend type relationship.
V-day came around and he asked me to go out to diner, I declined, and after two months of pursuing, he got the hint, backed off, and started dating another girl. I truly did not mind as at this point, I felt nothing for him, and it was a huge relief when this other girl came into the picture. He still continued to text me weekly and request to hang out during their five week courtship.
Well in the five week span of time after settling into all the changes in my life I finally fell for him. I realied what a great guy he was and how I was just being foolish to let it go. We got along great and had built a friendship off of just personality and not sex --which is so not typical.
The girl broke it off with him and I re-entered the picture wanting more. We went from just friends to hooking up and spending nights together. About two weeks into it I asked him to become exclusive. He told me he wasn't seeing anyone else but did not feel ready for bf/gf. He explained he had been hurt so many times in the past that he just didnt know how we would turn out and that he was not ready. This was after us talking for three months as friends. I figured at this point he should know if he wanted to be serious with me. Well, I let it go for a week and things on their own started to natually define us as a relationship without the label. At that point, he told me that he was not over the girl he had been with (from over three weeks ago) and needed time to get over her and that he was sorry, that he did really like me in the beginning, but he really wanted it to work with this other girl.
I was crushed but told him I was fine with his decision and that I did not want him to text or call me anymore. He never stopped texting me throughout their relationship --leading me to believe it was far more of a casual fling then it really was. I definitely would not have talked to him had I known they were an item and not just casual.
Well three weeks into no contact he texts me to hang out. I wasn't ready since I still had feelings for him. I was very friendly but declined his request twice and he ended up blocking me on a dating site we were both on. I was really shocked that he did that considering he was the one who had contacted me to hang out and neither of us had ever been harsh with one another nor even talked through the dating site he blocked me on. If he didn't want me to contact him then he should have blocked me on FB (we weren't fb friends but had communicated via fb email). It was just very odd.
Well two full months later I still can't get him off my mind. I wanted to let my emotions play out and see how I truly felt once some time was put between us. Problem is, I still really really miss him. And I do want to contact him in the worst way. I actually would have at the two month mark had he not blocked me as that was my time frame or figuring things out. I really, really, want to contact him. I found out as of last week he is back on a dating site so I assume he is single. How horrible would it be to just throw out a "hey how are you?"