contact him again? or let it go..
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| Thu, 10-18-2007 - 10:56am |
I've been hanging out with a guy for about a month, I hesitate to call it dating or seeing each other because we hadn't discussed exclusivity, although I got the impression I was the only girl he was going on dates with because of his busy work schedule. He's always good about calling and making plans and it seemed like things were going great. I went on a trip for a few days and he called once while I was there and said he couldn't wait to see me again, and to call when I got back. Then we texted a little bit the night before I came back. When I got back, I called and left a message about hanging out early in the week. He never returned the call. It's been 5 days, which may not seem like a lot, but it's VERY unlike him, not to mention kind of rude not to return a call.
I've had guys just disappear, which is lame, but it happens. But this guy didn't strike me as the type to do that, he's a genuine nice guy, a gentleman...or so I thought. A friend says I should give him the benefit of the doubt and just send a text to see if everything's ok since I haven't heard from him. But I hate to put myself out there, and embarass myself if he's just going to roll his eyes after hearing from me again. Any advice??

Since his history with you has been the opposite of what you are currently experiencing, you might want to either call or text him and simply state something like "Havent heard from you since my message.
Snafu had a great suggestion. Since he had always been so prompt about keeping in contact before, you contacting him ONCE to inquire if everything is okay is fine. But if you don't hear back from him after that, I wouldn't contact him again.
Good luck,
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You both hung out and such, you didn't date. His behavior strikes me as a person who IS hanging out or dating others. He may be busy with other people at the moment. I wouldn't text or call him again, the ball in his court and if he doesn't return it then it's his choice not to do so.
Honestly, I really feel that if a guy wants to contact you, he will. The problem with contacting him again -- even if you just do it once -- is that once again you start waiting and wondering ... which you're already doing! Any time a man has been truly interested in me, he's let me know by taking action and contacting me, and he doesn't let anything get in his way ... if he's really interested and available.
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That is quite rude, especially since he said he couldn't wait to see you.