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| Mon, 05-28-2007 - 11:04pm |
Alright, so I am starting to get back into the dating scene (after over a year out of it), and although I have always had some body issue stuff, I can usually get over it. So the problem is that due to this new medication I am taking, I have gained a little weight, and stretch marks. The guy I am interested in has seen the chubbiness, but not the stretch marks, which I am very embarrassed about. How do I know that he isn't going to be repulsed if and when we get to the "nakie time" stage? I know being self conscious is a turn off, so how do I either 1) get over my issues or 2)find out if he will still be interested in me after the clothes come off? Let me make it clear that we are not dating yet, but things are heading in that direction.
I don't know if this is very clear....
I don't know if this is very clear....

I don't know how old you are, but I'm sure you are still quite young and your body should have some resilience, thus the stretch marks may not be as pronounced to others as they are to you. Of course, YOU see it no matter what and usually that is all that counts. I am assuming you have not had children, because usually women who have had children have stretch marks somewhere on their bodies.
"I know being self conscious is a turn off, so how do I either 1) get over my issues or 2)find out if he will still be interested in me after the clothes come off?" -- I would choose option number 1 if I were you. I wouldn't go to option number 2 because you could create an image in his head that is worse than what the reality is, so dont say anything about your body to him before he has seen it.
So, how do you get over your issues? I don't know. I know that there are all sorts of creams on the market that say they can reduce the prominence of the stretch marks, but I don't know if they work. Maybe you could ask someone who has had kids or a pharmacist or go to a spa and ask one of the girls there what they recommend. Do you have the opportunity to exercise and work out? Maybe that can help overall. I have not been in your position so I may not be of comfort to you right now, but chances are real good that if he has seen the chubbiness and likes you with the chubbiness, the marks arent going to deter him.
About five years ago, I went through a weight gain stage and earned myself some nice stretch marks on the insides of my thighs. I lost the weight and kept it off, but the stretch marks stayed and bothered me for a long time. Eventually they faded and now are barely visible. They are faint and white, and really you'd have to touch them to know for sure what they are. Long story short, they will fade.
If you want to reduce the prominence of the marks themselves, you can try creams for a temporary fix. Do a little online research or consult a doctor (or dermatologist) for a recommendation before dropping a bunch of money on "miracle" products.
There is also something to be said for mood lighting and flattering lingerie (and there is something flattering for every body type). Little things can make a big difference in setting mood and putting your mind at ease in a crucial moment. :)
Confidence is the sexiest trait a person can carry, I think. If you think you're hot, other people will, too, regardless of what you physically look like. in the end though, a guy who is into you will be grateful you're attracted to him enough to shae "nakie time" and won't give a hoot about your stretch marks.