Crush on a guy at work Pt. 2

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Registered: 02-20-2004
Crush on a guy at work Pt. 2
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Wed, 04-14-2004 - 10:44am
Hello ladies, I'm back again on the board seeking some more expert advice. A month ago, I had mentioned that I had a crush on a guy at work & I was trying to figure out the best way to suggest having lunch. I had received good feedback on approaching him for lunch. The one thing I had failed to mention is that we don't work in the same department nor the same building; he works in building K2 & I work over in building K11, so I may get to see him once or maybe twice a week if I'm lucky. I've been in his area a couple of times & we always exchange smiles, say hi & maybe chat briefly, but there's usually people around. The office usually has ears & I don't want people to know our business; I don't know how he would react but would it be appropriate if I just sent him an e-mail suggesting lunch or should I just try to pull him aside & ask him to lunch?

Again, thank you very much for your advice, ladies.

Ladybug_68

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Wed, 04-14-2004 - 12:03pm
I think you should get him alone and ask him rather than send an email. Sometimes people over look e-mails and then you're wondering whether or not he received the e-mail or not.

As hard as it is and believe me, I'm in the same boat as you are and I have done nothing, but I recommend you ask him personally rather than e-mail.

Good luck and let us know how things turn out.

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Registered: 01-05-2004
Wed, 04-14-2004 - 2:24pm
The only guy I ever went out with in the office asked me over email because he was too shy to ask himself and didn;t want to look unprofessional o top of the shyness. I thought it was cute.

Since you rarely see him, I don't see why using email would be an issue. I think you're actually more likely to get a candid answer in email, too. People have a tendency to be more honest in writing.

If you do decide to use email and your office uses Microsoft Outlook, you can elect a preference to receive a receipt when the message is read. Might be helpful if you want to know he got your message. One thing you might also want to consider is if your company has any sort of anti-relationship policy. It might not be wise to leave a "paper trail" in your office email if you do.

Good luck and please let us know what happens!

Ivy

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Registered: 02-20-2004
Wed, 04-14-2004 - 2:25pm
You're right, Liyahberry. Once I see him, I'll just ask to speak to him & then ask my crush to lunch.

Thanks again!

Ladybug_68

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Registered: 02-20-2004
Wed, 04-14-2004 - 3:24pm
Hi Poison Ivy Princess:

Yes, that's another thing, I'm also shy, so whenever I see him, I tend to get nervous & shy. We do use Microsoft Outlook & I already have mine set to where I get a receipt when someone reads my e-mails. I wasn't sure if he would be turned off if I sent him an e-mail & asked him to lunch. Also, like Liyahberry had pointed out, he may overlook my e-mail. But I guess either way, it's still a risk. I'll make a decision & definitely let you guys know how it turns out.

Thanks for your advice!

Ladybug_68

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Registered: 06-13-2003
Wed, 04-14-2004 - 9:03pm
I did the same thing at work - and I sent an email , saying "I know email seems like a cop-out, but since we work in different buildings it is unlikely we will run into each other... or something like that.

good luck!! mine accepted lunch.. but had a girlfriend already.