Crush On A Work Colleague

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Registered: 11-11-2005
Crush On A Work Colleague
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Fri, 11-11-2005 - 8:24am
I have recently started working with a guy at work and have a major crush on him. However, just as we were starting to get on well, a new girl started (who is also really nice), who to be perfectly honest is much better looking. Now it seems to me, and most of the people who work with us, that he really likes her. But that doesn't seemed to have affected me. I still like him, and get really quite jealous when they talk to each other which leads to me slagging him off to my other colleagues. Now he's found out about some of the things i've been saying, and didn't seem too pleased.
I would love to tell him how I feel, but i'm so worried that he'll say no, and then we won't be able to work together. However, if i don't and he asks this new girl out, I don't think i'd be able to work with the two of them. Which would be a shame because I look forward to the days when the tree of us work together.
What Do I Do?
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Registered: 04-14-2003
Fri, 11-11-2005 - 9:05am
The best thing to do is not to do anything. You work with this guy, is your job important to you? If so, don't dip your pen in company ink.
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Registered: 11-11-2005
Fri, 11-11-2005 - 9:11am
Ok, but how do I get over him. I really like my job, but if they got together I don't think I could take it at the moment.
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Registered: 04-14-2003
Fri, 11-11-2005 - 9:23am

If they get together then you will have to be the better person for it.

You can always think of it this way, it will be them not you if they break apart and then they will be dealing with the uncomfortableness of the situation where you sit from afar, the much better place.

It's tough, I know, but the whole situation is tenuous, better to not get involved. Besides, many companies have strict policies about these sort of things. No need to be fodder for the corporate rumor mill.