Damage Control- For an Idiot Move I Made
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| Tue, 12-07-2004 - 1:27pm |
Hi:
I wanted to get your advice on my following situation. I finally broke up with a man who I have been taking care of for the past 7 months. He has a less than perfect past. He currently violated his probabtion, does not earn any real money, does not show me any real gratitude or love for all I have done. Now, you are thinking why in the hell I got involved with him. Because he painted a picture of all that I wanted to hear. I would of never gotten involved if I knew what he was really like before I fell in love with him. I mean I live in a different world than he does, a professional woman who wants to accomplish things in life. To make the long story short, I got into this depressive state feeling emotionally bad about the fact I had asked him to leave my home and having fantasies that maybe it might work and he would come around. Well I called him and he basically rejected me telling me I treated him so badly when in fact it was the other way around. I cried and begged him to meet with me too talk. I realized I did this out of loneliness and desperation to feel comfort from someone. I was being pathetic, but my emotions got the best of me.
The problem is that I have empowered him to believe that he was in the right. That he was together when in fact he wasnt and I felt used. All the repeated attempts to call him last night only made him feel like he is the victim and I am nothing but a lousy woman. I gave him the power to believe this because of my desperate phone calls.
I am mad at myself for doing this. Is there anything at all that I can do to take this layer of power that he blieves he was right from under his feet? I kills me to think I have given him that satisfaction especially since I know he was never the right man for me and he was not a very good person to begin with.

Edited 12/7/2004 1:49 pm ET ET by isosad